Magnetized

Spring has sprung!

A Walk

We’ve been in sprucing-up mode around here lately.

This task has inevitably created another list of projects to do. Some of these projects are things that just need to get done, like repaint the deck. Other items are just on the want list. For example, this 1980’s light fixture is very ugly. I have big plans for this light though, I need just a couple of weeks.

Ugly Light

To help plan for these projects, we took a trip to a big box hardware store for some ideas. We’re wandering down the main aisle in a sea of gas grills with Elisabeth riding in her giant racecar cart. I’m looking at this or that when all of the sudden I hear CLANK. Chris and I look at each other and ask at the very same time, “What was that?”

I look at Elisabeth and do a quick cochlear implant inventory. Left one, check. Right side, missing. Not good.

Chris and I conducted a search in a seven grill radius. The magnetic disk that sticks to her head flew off and landed on the side of a grill.

I had no idea that was even possible! It’s almost like a magic trick…Well, now that we know our bionic baby needs to watch out for magnetic stuff we can avoid refrigerators, lockers and of course, grills.

Apparently, we also need to be cautious with cookie cutters, as evidenced below.

cookie
Yes, that is a molar-shaped cookie cutter.

And She’s Off

We visited the Mall of America this weekend along with five thousand Girl Scouts. I have to admit, I’ve never seen the mall so packed and it made me a little nervous. Elisabeth has been experimenting with her independence. She’ll hold my hand for a few minutes but then she wants to let go to investigate whatever strikes her fancy.

I love that she’s becoming more independent, BUT if she gets lost she’ll never hear her name being called. I guess if there was a best time to get lost it would be when the mall is overrun with Girl Scouts. I wonder if there’s a lost and found badge?

I try to tell myself not to worry but she’s this fast:

Blur

Of the one hundred photos I took, this is the least blurry.

Okay, I did get a few non-blurry ones:

Elisabeth &I loved this window display with her name in it. I must have taken 30 pictures here, I caught this one while she was resting.

On our way out, we had to walk by the Lego store. Someone who shall remain nameless (though I call her “Elisabeth”) couldn’t just walk by, she had to stop in and play for a few minutes.

LegosTogether, we built a colorful tower. When we were done, she pulled each of the pieces apart and put them back where they belong. What a good girl, I just wish she’d do that at home too!

We made one last stop on the way out of the mall to look at the fancy dresses.

Sequins
I think Elisabeth may have picked out her high school prom dress already. Now to catch her!

Mirror2

Mirror1
We eventually made it out of the mall. No one got lost, except for the car, but that was my fault.

Comparison: The Thief of Joy? {A Blog Hop}

Welcome to the Blog Hop Comparison: Thief of Joy? where bloggers from all over the world are invited to share their ideas about Theodore Roosevelt’s quote: “Comparison is the thief of joy.” Do you agree of disagree with Teddy’s POV? Please share your unique perspective.

Linking in to the Comparison Blog Hop on Dangerous Linda and Everyday Gyaan.

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Is It or Isn’t It?

Once upon a time, before I became a mother, I would have said comparison is never a thief of joy.

We compare apples and oranges, dogs and cats and basically everything that exists. When those comparisons are made one usually isn’t indicating that one fruit or pet is better than the other. They are just indicating their personal preferences.

However, now that I am a mother I’ve experienced a few situations where comparison was a thief of joy. It wasn’t a good feeling, it hurt and I  walked away feeling like a failure. However, being a mom for almost two years has given me some time to learn how to deal with these situations.

Some thieves of joy and how I handled them:

Thief #1: Baby Development Books- “Your baby is supposed to be doing this by X age.” I know these are general guidelines but reading these and seeing how far behind my baby was made me feel like I wasn’t doing anything right. After a conversation and some encouragement from my parents I decided to get rid of the books. I have no regrets. Guess what? My baby has done everything she’s supposed to do on her own schedule.

Thief #2: The Shopping Mall Mom- “Oh, our kids look about the same age! Is your baby saying such and such? Because my baby is already saying three word sentences and modeling!” I tell her, Elisabeth isn’t really doing any of the things your kid is awesome at but she has a long attention span for learning, she’s been using her potty chair since 18 months, she signs over 60 words in ASL and she can walk in high heels. I think it’s important to share some things Elisabeth is good at while acknowledging the accomplishments of the S.M.M.’s child too. I feel like that way I’m not walking away feeling bad and the S.M.M. isn’t feeling like I was trying to one up her child.

little shopper

Thief #3: The Low Talker- I simply won’t repeat some of the mean and insensitive comparisons these people have made after seeing Elisabeth wearing her hearing devices. Guess what, I heard you and after that first guy, I’ve rehearsed some comebacks. Low talkers everywhere, you will walk away wishing you had just kept your comments to yourself.

Life with Elisabeth is amazing and she brings so much joy and energy to my life, even when she’s cranky. When I look at her, nothing else matters. She is her own person and will do things when she’s good and ready.

Winter Baby

So, can comparison be a thief of joy? Sure, but I prefer to find a way to quickly deal with those thieves and move on. Focusing on the negative comparisons is also a thief of time and that time is something we can never get back.

Is there any room for comparisons in parenting? Certainly! I am fortunate to have a number of friends and family with kids around Elisabeth’s age. We love comparing what our kids are up to but it’s never a competition. It’s great being able to share in the joys and challenges of being a parent.

 

My First Updo and a Walk for Talk!

Elisabeth finally was able to sport her very first updo! She had it up for about half the day and then grew tired of her little pigtails while we were at the Children’s Museum. I spared my kiddo this time, so there were no crazy haired photos taken…

updo

Of course her favorite thing do do is play in the water! Then there is me, the helicopter mom. I have to hover from side to side to be certain a cochlear implant device doesn’t go for a dip. I do this all while trying to snap a few photos. I couldn’t take it anymore so I had to take them off while she was playing at the water table.

Baby E Splash

Perhaps you’ve noticed the new addition to the sidebar…Elisabeth is raising money for her new school, Northern Voices. Chris and I enrolled her in January after she turned 18 months old.

We had previously been using the school district for all of Elisabeth’s services for speech and sign language. We were also taking her to the U of M once per week for speech therapy. Chris, Elisabeth and I just loved all of her teachers and providers. They worked so hard for her and helped teach Chris and I the right things to do at home. However, after she received her second cochlear implant we felt like she needed more help with speech. Our district suggested checking to see if Northern Voices would be a good fit. We took a tour, heard the kids talking and were just amazed.

Northern Voices School teaches children who are deaf or hard of hearing that have hearing devices how to listen and speak. Elisabeth has already made so much progress and it is exciting to hear her vocalizing. She is making so many new sounds and even saying a couple of words! It’s remarkable. The best part is she loves to go to school. Every morning she’s ready with her coat on waiting at the door to get to school.

Back to the fundraiser, our family is walking a 5K in May to support Elisabeth’s school. If you’d like to make a contribution you can do so through Elisabeth’s fundraising page, donations are accepted online from just one dollar on up or you can walk with us. There is also a link on that page if you want to read more about Elisabeth’s school.

Meanwhile, we’ll be training for our walk. It’s been awfully nice here so we were out almost every day last week. Maybe Elisabeth will be able to walk the whole 5K. I’ll bring the stroller just in case, because I know I can’t carry her that far!

 

Dolphin Signs

Elisabeth loves to see animals and the fish. We’ve spent a lot of time exploring the aquarium at the Minnesota Zoo lately.

pink fish

Dori

These were her favorite fish, she followed them all over their giant tank and was sure to point where they were so I wouldn’t lose sight of them either. After thoroughly exploring the aquariums, we bundled up to walk on the Minnesota Trail. We then headed back to the aquarium to warm up and have a snack. Elisabeth gobbled up her apple sauce and raisins and went to say goodbye to the dolphins.

Dolphin Tank

She walked up to the window all by herself and she started signing something to the dolphin. She talked to her for a few minutes, all I could make out was “fish” and a “goodbye” wave. I wish I would have taken a video of it. Watching her talk to the dolphin melted my heart, it was so sweet. After the conversation was over, Elisabeth toddled back over to the bench where I was sitting and climbed up and asked for her coat. She was ready to go home after our fun-filled winter morning.

 

How to Make Cochlear Implants for Dolls

I have been looking for a doll with hearing aids or cochlear implants for about a year now. Unfortunately, the only one I could find looks kinda creepy. I called the American Girl company too. They make glasses and wheelchairs for their dolls but no hearing devices.

What’s a mom to do? Elisabeth is having surgery again on Monday. She is getting her second implant, the one on the right worked so well for her we decided to do the left ear too. Well actually, she decided. Elisabeth refuses to wear her hearing aid in her left ear if it is turned on. It’s curious, she wears it if it’s off. She also has been trying to put her implant device on her left ear when it falls off the right.

Okay, back to the doll. So, I decided to make my own. Not the doll, I’m not that crafty!

I picked up some pink puff paint in the dollar bins at Michael’s and drew the cochlear implants right on the dolls bald little head. It couldn’t have been easier.

Baby Doll1

This little doll is from Target in case you’re wondering.

Baby Doll 2

Baby Doll 3

Baby Doll 4

If you use puff paint to make your own cochlear implants or hearing aids be sure you let them dry for at least twenty four hours. I thought it would be dry after twelve, it wasn’t.

Elisabeth may be too out of it right after her surgery to notice the doll has new cochlear implants just like hers. I think I’ll give it to her before we leave.

ASL: More

Here is your very first American Sign Language tutorial from Elisabeth.

Word: More

Definition: Something that’s exactly the same, only tons and tons extra. Especially if it’s something fun or tasty.

I love how she helps with “more.” It’s really cute when she corrects me now, but I’m sure that will change when she’s fourteen.

 

So Much to Hear

Elisabeth’s cochlear implant has been on for a little over a week now.

 Standing

It didn’t start out all smiles…The first several days were very frustrating as she did not want to keep it on for more than a few minutes. That was really difficult for us, Chris and I struggled with a little “buyer’s remorse.” I kept thinking, what if we made the wrong choice?!?

After a few days, Elisabeth was more cooperative wearing her device. On Thursday, she was mad at her daycare provider for taking it off at nap time and then on Friday, at nap time, I went to remove it and she covered it with her hand and dozed off. It was very sweet.

It’s hard for me to imagine hearing sound for the first time, figuring out what sound goes with what noise maker and what it all means. I take sound for granted or more importantly, the ability to tune out those annoying sounds. The dishwasher, refrigerator and even the TV, I am sure she was just overwhelmed by this noisy world.

I have been taking cues from her as far as a wearing schedule goes. She likes to wake up a little bit while eating breakfast before putting on her device and that’s okay. Everyone needs their quiet time. The goal is to wear it all day, it’s on from about 7am to 6:30 pm , so we’re already there. I do remove it while we’re in the car because if she gets bored, it goes right in her mouth. I had to pull over once now and dig it out of her mouth. Lesson learned.

Well, back to that “buyer’s remorse,” it’s over. Elisabeth wants to wear her device and her hearing aid too. Also, she’s already making new sounds that I have never heard her make before. If she can make those sounds, she can HEAR them!

Here is a close up of what her cochlear implant device looks like:

 CI CloseupWe have received so many positive and supportive messages and e-mails, there hasn’t been enough time in the day to respond to each one individually. Please know they have all been read and appreciated. We’re saving each and every one for our little girl so when she’s older she can see all the loving and supportive people who have been rooting for her from day one! Thank you!

Manic Monday

Oh wait! It’s Tuesday…

This morning started out rough, very rough and for some reason the day just wouldn’t get better.

Maybe it’s because I’m overtired and Chris has Mono.

But forget all that stuff because tomorrow, Baby Elisabeth should be getting the okay to activate her cochlear implant. The activation is scheduled for Thursday and then she’ll have a hearing test on Monday.

We have so much to look forward to!

 

A Little Detour

On Saturday morning, Elisabeth woke up super fussy so I wasn’t convinced her pain medication was strong enough. It was just the day after her cochlear implant surgery so I called the resident on-call to see what we should do.

I took her bandage off to see how it looked underneath, it looked much better than I imagined!

Bandages Off

Elisabeth was so happy to be bandage free, she actually stopped fussing for a few minutes so I could take some pictures.

Bandage Off, So Happy

Since everything looked good, I ultimately took her to the urgent care at the hospital where she was born to get the additional pain medication. We’re usually in and out pretty quick and I knew exactly where to go as opposed to going to the new University of Minnesota Children’s Hospital Emergency Department.

We arrived at urgent care, got checked in and Elisabeth started to run a little fever so they sent us to the emergency room instead. While waiting for the doctor I noticed she had become super hot, so I paged the nurse who came to recheck her temperature. It had soared above 104 degrees in that short span of time. Also, her incision area was looking a puffy and red. NOT COOL.

There was a new plan of action, IV antibiotics, right now.

Ha! Try getting an IV on Elisabeth, she’s a feisty one. It took lots of pokes, three nurses and a distraught mother to finally get that IV in her scalp. It was the only place they could get it.

IV antibiotics were started.

Okay, so her temperature didn’t go down that much and now she’s getting admitted to the hospital. I requested to go back to the U of M as that’s were she had her surgery. We got a lift from the ambulance so the professionals could keep an eye on the IV line and she could also finish her antibiotics on the ride over.

At the U, they did her blood work, put in a new IV because the scalp IV had twisted and no longer worked and she had a lumbar puncture.  Not fun but totally necessary to rule out some really bad stuff.

Elisabeth and I had now been up for 22 hours, yes 22. I hadn’t eaten since lunch and had to watch my baby wrestle with many doctors and nurses. She was definitely in FIGHT mode and I’m not sure where all the energy came from or how I even held it together.

I think I’ve mentioned before, she’s strong-willed and spirited…

When they finished testing and antibiotics were done, we were taken up to a room for the rest of the night…I mean morning. It was around 4 am and we were so tired. Elisabeth was not going to let me put her down, not even for a second. She slept on top of me in a big comfy rocking chair until 8 am.

She had more IV antibiotics and pain medication after we woke up and we snuggled while she had her medicine. Elisabeth was feeling a lot better and even had some afternoon visitors, I thought for sure we’d get to go home before dinner. Then she had another fever, so her doctor asked that she stay another night for observation.

When Monday morning rolled around she was back to her old self, fever-free and she was discharged before lunch.

It was so nice to get home and we celebrated by napping for three hours. Elisabeth is feeling great, it has been a little hard to keep her from overdoing it while she is recovering. We’ve been watching her favorite show, Signing Time!, reading lots of books and we even took a walk with the dogs in the stroller between downpours.

It’s such a relief she’s on the mend!

 

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